January 3, 2010
Today a friend of mine posed the question...or rather the statement....a Friendship shouldn't be work. A marriage takes work, compromise, and effort. Well all know that. But, a friendship should be easy. I started thinking about that. I have a lot of friends. But, only a few of them are really my friends. You know the kind that know all about you and still love you. Some have been there for you to cry on...Monica, for example was there for everysingle boyfriend caused tears that i have ever had. Autumn was there for several of them. They see you do stupid things. They support you, encourage you, tell you how stupid your being, and still pretend to like the idiot you were crying over last week. Those two know absolutely every thing there is to know about me. I had other friends along that path...but they are the only ones still there. My friendships with them are not work...they just are. I have some friends here that are not work...they just are. How many people say that about me? I wonder...am I a good friend? Am I the person that they know they could call at three am because they had a fight with someone....and know I would answer. Today I learned that not all friendships are created equal. Some are work. Some are not honest. Some are onesided. So now I must figure out how to move forward and be the type of friend that just is....and figure out how to balance the ones that are sooo much work.